Are You Soulmate Material and Are You Ready To Find Yours?

When you’re searching for your perfect partner, you need to have your house in order. Not literally, a tidy house of course. You need to be ready in yourself. Ask yourself, would you want to be your soulmate? Being over 50, we know we are not perfect, yet we must have enough self-esteem to project a good image worthy of attracting a soulmate.

It’s so easy to focus on the person you’re seeking. Make sure to look at yourself to see what you’re bringing to the relationship. This is not just about money or prestige, what type of person are you?

If you’re not the kind of person you’d want to date, then you might need to be making some changes.

Your Soulmate Is Searching For You

Don’t forget, while you’re searching for your soulmate, your soulmate is also searching for you. There are many soulmates for you. It’s not about finding a needle in a haystack. Feel confident, a soulmate is out there you just need to find it. Sitting at home won’t find your bet fit partner.

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Find yourself, know your good points and bad. It’s ok we all have them. Be clear what you want and don’t want. Make a list of five points for essential features you are looking for in your soulmate and another five for preferred. Keep these in your mind and if the fit is not there, don’t spend months messaging and then meeting only to find out they are not the one. When you are over 50 and 60 in the dating scene, there isn’t the time to procrastinate. Move on.

As you are getting to know your potential soulmate, take the time, for your partner’s sake, to make yourself look your best.  If you’re a man with a beard, take a minute to clean it up or have a barber do it. For women, embrace your grey hair or get your roots done and have your hair styled to suit.

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At our age, we might say “They need to accept me as I am.” Yes, this is true however how you only have one chance to make a good first impression.

Often at a first meeting, your soulmate will say that “You are the one” and keep your first look in their mind and soul forever. 

Finding Your Soul Mate is Not About Good Looks

If you’re not comfortable from within please dont expect your soulmate to solve your emotional issues.

Work on yourself first before you try to bring in other people to your life. This can be done with therapists, by talking to friends, and even just by getting online help.

Make yourself more interesting.  Decide on a hobby, develop an interest in something, or engage in a sport. Whatever you choose make sure this is what you want to do, and not just where you think you will find a desirable soulmate.

Are You Ready to Find Your Soulmate?

While the idea of true love and having a partner sounds appealing to just about everyone, not everyone is necessarily ready for it. Relationships always seem like pure fun and happiness on the surface, and at first, they are.

However, you’ll soon realize that most relationships worth having take time, and involve compromise.

If you don’t have your life sorted out including acceptance of your past, you won’t be able to truly develop a proper relationship.

A relationship should be symbiotic, meaning you both benefit from one another.

If you’ve been having issues recently with stress or any other mental problems, a relationship might not be the solution, and can sometimes make things worse.

Don’t Rescue Someone Hoping You Can Turn Them into Your Soulmate

A soulmate isn’t someone who can solve all of your problems. If they have money and you don’t, if they have power, if they have a loving family. These attributes help make the person but you are not a soulmate simply to fix their problems. 

This approach often fails long term. Trying to take someone and mold their personality to fit that of your exact ideal partner is doomed. Perhaps you have tried this before.

Just because you want that person to be everything you want doesn’t mean that you can force it. It just doesn’t work like that.

In other words, it’s almost impossible to turn someone into your ideal soulmate, and even if it seems to start working, it will be fundamentally unstable and unlikely to continue for long.

As much as you might think it’s possible and want it to be true, people at their core simply cannot be changed against their will. If someone has deep seeded trust issues that conflict with them being your soulmate, you can’t just “fix” that and go on to make them your ideal creation.

If the person you’re dating is extremely rude or mean-spirited, just drop them after you realize that. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can make them a nice, happy person, because you most likely just won’t.

They may clean up their act a bit, but those mean tendencies will sprout up again in the future and may even just come back in full once you’re both comfortable. Many people settle for these kinds of people because they tend to have a lower opinion of themselves.

They think that they’re not good enough for the seemingly perfect people, so they choose to try to fix someone with a lot of issues to compensate for their own. It’s much better to choose someone who’s good at their very core.

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These people are way more likely to be good soulmates for you, and you don’t have to try to manipulate them to be the person you want them to be. It’s just a better situation all around, less work and a more stable, nice relationship.

The ealy signs you have met a soulmate.

First, always be on the lookout for someone you have an instant rapport with, a comfort and a feeling of familiarity for no apparent reason. You will feel calm without any need to impress and conversation is easy. You may even thought “You are the one” and the next meeting or arrangement will come with ease from both of you. For more signs, the article “The 10 Elements of a Soulmate” may also help you to decide.