10 proven ways to improve your Senior Online Dating conversations

The Blarney Stone is a historical stone, or actually part of the Blarney Castle in Ireland where it was believed that kissing the stone can grant you the gift of gab.

KIssing the Blarney Stone

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There is so much to know about conversation, it looks easy for some, but not everyone.

Despite the passing of the centuries the desire to have good conversations remains a challenge for many, even online.

If you are out of practice having ” date” conversations and knowing what to say you’re not alone.

Conversations online are much easier because you can type, re-type and get your message and tone just right.

Here’s our list of 10 tips to empower your online dating conversation that will boost your confidence and help you to get the date you want.

 

The 10 proven was to empower your Senior Online Dating conversations.

 

1. Before you go online, lets get back to conversation basics.

Unlike face to face dating, when you have a conversation online you can start by reading about the other persons likes and interests. Write down key points for each person you want to connect with. Research the profiles and write down what they find interesting and identify your interests in common.

Prepare a spreadsheet, or write their details in a book. The last thing you want to become confused about who you are talking to. The is the best and fastest way to turnoff for your online dating prospect. for online dating.

Be genuine and think about whether your interests are compatable. A mature pretty face may be the initial attraction however their passion for rock climbing might not be the best fit for you. And, likewise for women an athletic older man may look desirable and as you read his profile his passion for sailing becomes clear. If you get sea sick, move onto the next profile

 

2. Online Talking.

Having that first conversation can be hard either online for offline.

When you are new to online dating, aim for a conversation style of writing, this is not a business email where your grammar needs to be perfect.

Here are two ways of saying Hi.

Formal

“Hello, And, what are you doing this weekend?”  This is very direct and may put some people offside because they need to share private details of their life in the first conversation.

Or you could try this initial greeting which is more conversational;

“Hey, how’s your weekend going?”

“G’day, How’s it going for you?” ..this is very Australian and consider what works for your culture 

Both convsersational styles are open ended, and friendly,

As you can see, in a conversational style of writing, grammar can go out the window, however keep your spelling as good as you can.

Conversational writing needs to be engaging.  Tell a story, a short one and not your life story. Ask questions to help the other person reply to you. Remember you won’t be the only person struggling to on know what to say online.

3. Humility

We all make mistakes, and sometimes we tend to slur our words, stutter, and probably mispronounce certain words even though we know what it means, but rarely use it only to impress listeners. So in a group, don’t be afraid to ask if you’re saying the right word properly and if they’re unsure about it then make a joke out of it. I promise you it’ll make everyone laugh and you can get away with it as well.

4. Eye Contact

There’s a lot to say when it comes to directing your attention to your audience with an eye-catching gaze. It’s important that you keep your focus when talking to a large group in a meeting or a gathering, even though he or she may be gorgeous.

5. Kidding around

A little bit of humor can do wonders to lift the tension, or worse boredom when making your speech. That way, you’ll get the attention of the majority of the crowd and they’ll feel that you’re just as approachable, and as human to those who listen.

6. Be like the rest of them

Interaction is all about mingling with other people. You’ll get a lot of ideas, as well as knowing what people make them as they are.

7. Me, Myself, and I

Admit it, there are times you sing to yourself in the shower. I know I do! Listening to the sound of your own voice while you practice your speech in front of a mirror can help correct the stress areas of your pitch. And while you’re at it you can spruce up as well.

8. With a smile

A smile says it all much like eye contact. There’s no point on grimacing or frowning in a meeting or a gathering, unless it’s a wake. You can better express what you’re saying when you smile.

9. A Role Model

There must be at least one or two people in your life you have listened to when they’re at a public gathering or maybe at church. Sure they read their lines, but taking a mental note of how they emphasize what they say can help you once you take center stage.

10. Preparation

Make the best out of preparation rather than just scribbling notes and often in a hurried panic. Some people like to write things down on index cards, while other resort to being a little more silly as they look at their notes written on the palm of their hand (not for clammy hands, please). Just be comfortable with what you know since you enjoy your work.

 

And that about wraps it up. These suggestions are rather amateurish in edgewise, but I’ve learned to empower myself when it comes to public or private speaking and it never hurts to be with people to listen how they make conversations and meetings far more enjoyable as well as educational.

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