First Time Online Dating
Let’s Get You Started
Today’s baby-boomers never say never. The 50+ crowd is stronger and smarter than ever.
Mark Twain once said “Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.”
Truer words, I think, have never been spoken! So you’re 60 – so what!
Life doesn’t have to be relegated to planting flowers and rocking on your front porch talking about the good old days. Believe me, the good old days are just starting!
With maturity comes new knowledge and experiences you can embrace and enjoy. You are blessed with the memories you can share with those around you – your loved ones. But what if you’re a single and over 50 or even 60? Is all hope lost for sharing your life and those memories with someone else? Not a chance!
Loss of a spouse or partner due to death or divorce or other life situation is no longer the beginning of many lonely years.
Life is short and you still have a lot of living to do and loving to give.
At one time, senior dating was unthought of. The consensus “back in the day” was that you found someone to marry and stayed married forever. If they passed away, you were expected to simply live out the rest of your days as a widow or widower tending to the grandchildren, volunteering or gardening. Well, the times have changed.
Studies have shown that staying single can also put your health at risk. Research shows longer a man spends in divorced or widower state:
- The higher his likelihood of developing heart or lung disease or cancer
- The greater his risk of high blood pressure, diabetes, and stroke
- The more difficulties he will have with mobility, such as walking or climbing stairs
For men at least, it makes sense then to get back out in the social scene and date – for your health!
Why should you be expected to be alone when you still have so much life to live?
You need to get out and meet people – date, have fun, make new memories, have new experiences!
So what’s the best way to meet people?
At one time, the only places to meet people were at church, in the grocery store, sporting events, or through family and friends. Today, we have the Internet and you should take advantage of everything it offers in your journey back into the dating world.
Meeting new people can be challenging at any age, but at 60, it can be especially daunting. If you’ve spent years with one person, you may not know where to begin. We think that’s normal, but don’t worry.
If you’re 50+ or over 60 and you’d like to date, put your fears aside. There are so many safe ways to meet others who are in a similar situation. You no longer have to rely on friends, family or neighbors for dating opportunities
A quick search on the Internet shows there are many, many websites dedicated to dating for the mature set. But it can be daunting – especially for those who aren’t Internet savvy.
We can’t teach you the ins and outs of the Internet, but we’re betting since you’re reading this ebook, you already are somewhat computer literate. You don’t have to know everything about the Internet to start dating online. You just need to know how to log on.
Many people think that online dating services are only for young people, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. Times have changed and so have relationships. There are still plenty of opportunities to date outside the home, but plenty of relationships have started right on the Internet
WHAT IS THIS ONLINE DATING All ABOUT ?
Online dating refers to the websites offering services to individuals or groups who wish to meet people online for friendship, social or romantic relationships. You control the type of relationship you are looking for and who you talk to and who you don’t.
Simply put, an online dating community is a group who get together to talk, socialize, and make friends. Many hope that love will come their way, but at the very least, they want to find a way to find to meet new people.
A quick search on the Internet will reveal an abundance of dating opportunities for “Senior Dating”.
How you meet someone online varies from site to site. The basic process for is to sign on to a dating site by entering a unique username (not your actual name, a first name or other you may like) and a strong password ie one with numbers, capitals, and a few !@#$% and don’t forget to write it down and remember where it is !
You will also be required to enter an email address. The best advice is to great a specific online dating email such as a free gmail account. Simply google “ Gmail” and open an account. Don’t use your work email address, this can usually be accessed by a third party at work. Receiving emails in response to your dating profile is very exciting and you don’t want this to distract you from your 9-5.
Some online dating sites are free; others are not and the fees vary. Don’t assume the more the pay the better the results. Almost all sites will give you a free trial to see if you like the site and what it offers. When you are ready make sure you have time for the free trial to really check it out. If your time has lapsed, simply create a new email address.
Once you are signed up most sites ask for a user profile, which involves filling out an electronic form that asks specific questions. These questions can range from favorite sport or food etc.
You will also be asked what type of person you want to meet and what qualities you’d like even specify the distance you are prepared to travel.
You may be able to create a personal profile that tells others specific details about you. This can include experiences or memories you might want to share all the way to dreams and goals you want to achieve.
You will also be able to enter a photograph of yourself. A picture can be a great starting point to meeting that special someone though it’s not the main point.
Once you have registered, you’ll likely be invited to join in chat groups, and you’ll be able to search for other members meeting your criteria. You may even be able to fine-tune your criteria to find others sharing common interests or hobbies. You will be able to chat with a possible match and communicate with them through e-mail. When you decide to meet in person or face to face on Skype or IPhone FaceTime is all up to you!
Online dating has been the most significant shift dating culture all over the world since the mid-1960s. If nothing else, you can take comfort in knowing that there are millions of single people over age 50 who are interested in dating or creating new friendships, just like you.
Is online dating really for you? We’re willing to say yes, but let’s look at the pros and cons just to be sure.