Do you wish you could attract exactly who you want? Do you want to have more dates and more choices? Would you like to meet the person of your dreams?

Perhaps you need to discover the rules of attraction.

There are essentially six rules that will bring you more of what you want: more choices, more love, and more happiness. The fundamental rules are no different for men and women. The critical differences are descibed below.  If you are looking for a relationship, concentrate on these rules of attraction. Following these rules puts you in control of your destiny.

Let’s start with the rules for both men and women first. If you are looking for a relationship, concentrate on these rules of attraction. Following these rules puts you in control of your destiny.

If you are looking for a relationship, concentrate on these rules of attraction. Following these rules puts you in control of your destiny.

First, look for signs of love.  Change your negative picture that love does not exist. Since your thoughts become your reality, you need to look for signs of love.

If you do not think love happens except in the movies, it may take you a while to see it in others. But it is out there.

Believe that you will find love.  If you believe that you can find your mate, you will. If you believe that you can’t, you won’t. Other people have found their soul mate…you can too.

Focus on what it is that you want.  We get what we focus on. Think about what kind of relationship you would like to have. Dream big.

Make a list of the top ten qualities you would like to have in another. Whenever your thoughts and feelings go to hopeless, change your thoughts. Cut pictures out of a magazine that shows a man and a woman enjoying their time together, whether walking on a beach or sharing a candlelit dinner. Post these pictures in a place where you can see them often. When you look at them several times a day, see yourself in that picture.

Surround yourself with a vision of the relationship you want.  When you look at pictures of couples having fun, or when you see others enjoying each other, imagine that you are doing the same. Feel it happening to you. See yourself having the relationship you have always wanted.

Probably the most important rule of attraction is to become the kind of person you want to find.  You attract who you are. What kind of person do you want to find? Are you that person? Get busy becoming the wonderful person you would like to share your life with. If you are depressed or despairing, get help.

Remember to fill yourself with positive energy by doing activities that you love. Sort out your finances, handle your past baggage, make your living environment something you are proud of that gives you peace and comfort, and surround yourself with friends and family members who support you. It is from this space that you create someone who will love you.

And finally, be a generous spirit…to yourself and to others. We find someone to love when we love ourselves in a kind and nurturing way. You deserve to love and be loved. And remember…someone waits for you.


Dating is not easy for everyone. To some it could an exciting and fun activity that allows them to meet other people, and maybe even their potential life partner! But for others, this ritual can feel like a slow and painful torture, leading to an execution; especially for those men who do not have much luck when it comes to attracting women.

But there are ways you can attract women and realize that they might be interested.  It doesn’t have to be as difficult as you think it might be.

When in person, read body language.  Chances are, she’s putting out signals that she’s really interested.  Some tell-tale signs of interest include: • Biting her lips • Twirling her hair • Gazing at you • Touching her face • Laughing and touching you

Whether online or in person, be approachable and open to conversation.  Be friendly and ask questions.  Smile a lot when in person.  Convey that smile when online.  You can actually do this through positive comments and talk about yourself and the person you are chatting with. Even it they can’t see you, talk with a smile and this makes you sound friendly. Try it.

When face to face, it’s important to be clean and presentableDress for your age, feel comfortable in your clothes and remember. women are not going to go for guys who have poor grooming habits. It’s and old adage, ” Looks Do Count” , yet less so when you are over 60.

When you’re over 60, infact much younger, you may notice more ear or nose hair.  Keep these areas trimmed and clean.  It’s a real turn-off to see these errant hairs sticking out when trying to keep up an interesting conversation.

Make eye contact, too.  There’s nothing more attractive and sexy than having someone look directly into their eyes while they are talking with them.  They say the eyes are the window to the soul.  There’s no better way to connect with a woman than to give her a glimpse into your own soul.

Finally, have something clever to say.  Women love men with a great personality and this can be conveyed through what you say.

And no matter what people may tell you – chivalry is not dead and women DO appreciate it.  This is especially true for seniors.  Senior women remember the day when a man opened the door for a woman and let her enter a room first.  Pull her chair out for her at a restaurant and help her put on her coat.  While feminism is still alive and well, all women love to be pampered and remembering these tried and true techniques will impress her – trust me!

Above all, exude comfort with yourself.  Know that you deserve to find love and companionship and let him know that.  When you are confident, you will be stronger and that’s what surviving in the dating world is really all about.